We often expect depression and anxiety to show up during clearly difficult moments—loss, trauma, crisis. But many people are surprised when their mental health begins to shift during transitions that are supposed to be “normal” or even positive. These are often the moments when all the shoulds  show up. And as I like to say: don’t should yourself. I frequently hear clients say: “Nothing bad happened… so why do I feel like this? ” And the truth is: change itself is stressful f